Our church is in the middle of a series:
We are talking about the 7 deadly sins, you know -pride, greed, lust, envy, gluttony, sloth and anger. Today Pastor Steve covered lust and envy.
After church Jeremy and I decided to go out to lunch. We were sitting at our table and discussing the sermon from this morning. Lust can destroy so many relationships. We were talking about ways to prevent ourselves from being in situations that might allow for lust to give way. We got up to leave and as I walked past the table right next to ours, and older man was sitting there with his wife. He looked me straight in the eye and gave me a smile. His eyes said a million things – you sad young girl, you are so naive about life. So optimistic that you are invincible from the realities of life. Just wait, time will teach you life’s lessons.
I walked away feeling frustrated. His look made two things clear:
1) Our world is so cynical, an old man has lost his faith that people can honor their marriage commitments throughout their entire lifetime.
2) There is a severe lack of mentorship available for young couples. In one way, the old man was right. We are young, and optimistic that our marriage determined to make our marriage work. Is there no one who can point us in the right direction? People that can help us figure out how to make it through the rough times? Fortunately, at our church there are people available to us if we will ask. This is not the norm, and it makes me sad.
We have been married for 5 years. We have had times where we loved each other, and other times we could not stand each other. What? I’m not going to lie about it. I hope that as we help with the college ministry at our church, we can mentor young couples as they start their journey. Not with the usual advice that everyone gives, but with an honest and sincere knowledge of what it feels like when your relationship is not working the way it should.
It’s been an interesting and thought provoking series, and you can listen to it here.